How Narcissist Turns Everyday Conversations Into Battles
Triangulation feels like you’re arguing with a jury instead of just one person. It’s when a narcissist drags other people into your private conversations to make you feel outnumbered and powerless. Instead of resolving an issue directly with you, they’ll say things like, “Even my friends think you’re overreacting,” or “Everyone agrees that you’re the problem.”
By doing this, they create the illusion that you’re the irrational one while they’re the reasonable victim. Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist and expert on narcissistic abuse, explains that triangulation works because it triggers self-doubt and isolation.
But here’s the truth: If someone constantly needs an imaginary audience to validate their behavior, it’s not because they’re right; it’s because they know they can’t stand on their own.
7. Mockery and Sarcasm
“Oh, come on! Can’t you take a joke?” That’s the classic response when a narcissist uses mockery and sarcasm to shut you down. Instead of addressing your feelings with respect, they roll their eyes, smirk, or hit you with a cutting remark disguised as humor. If you express hurt, they make you feel ridiculous for bringing it up: “Wow, you’re so sensitive,” or “Relax, it’s not that deep.”
The goal isn’t just to dismiss you; it’s to make you doubt whether your emotions are even valid. Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail, explains that sarcasm and belittling humor are common manipulation tactics used to control others by making them feel small.
But here’s the truth: Respect isn’t something you should have to beg for. If someone constantly hides cruelty behind sarcasm, it’s not humor; it’s emotional warfare.
8. Moving the Goalposts
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