A Convenient Scapegoat
Narcissists also get married to have a scapegoat for their failures. Accountability is a foreign concept to them—they believe they can do no wrong. If something goes wrong, someone else must take the blame. Marriage provides the perfect scapegoat for their failures, shortcomings, or bad decisions.
They twist reality to shift responsibility onto their spouse, painting them as incompetent, unsupportive, or even sabotaging. This dynamic absolves the narcissist of guilt while reinforcing their sense of superiority. Over time, the spouse’s self-esteem erodes, leaving them questioning their worth and striving to avoid “failing” the narcissist.
A Lifetime of Servitude
To a narcissist, marriage is like a lifetime contract for servitude. They expect their spouse to act as a one-person support system, catering to their every whim. Gratitude or reciprocation? Those concepts are foreign to a narcissist. They see themselves as royalty, deserving unquestioning devotion.
This dynamic can be dehumanizing for the spouse, as the narcissist’s endless demands leave no room for individuality, needs, or aspirations.
The Perfect Public Facade
Narcissists are masterful performers, and marriage is their ultimate PR stunt. It helps them create an illusion of perfection that masks their true nature. Smiling family photos, social media posts, and public appearances are carefully calculated to project a phony image of success and stability
Behind closed doors, however, the story is often one of control, emotional abuse, and manipulation. The spouse becomes part of the narcissist’s charade, embodying the role of a perfect companion while the narcissist basks in admiration.
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