Narcissists often use counter-questioning to derail conversations and avoid accountability. Use this strategy against them to subtly expose their flaws. If they ask, “Why are you so emotional?” respond with, “What makes you think that’s a bad thing?” If they ask, “Why can’t you act normal?” respond with, “What does normal mean to you?”
By redirecting the focus back to them, you force them to confront their own inconsistencies. Keep asking open-ended questions until they get tired and leave the conversation.
3. Affirm What They Don’t Expect
When narcissists insult you, they expect you to feel ashamed or defensive. Instead, agree with them in a way that reclaims your power. For instance:
- If they say, “You’re so selfish,” reply, “Absolutely, I’ve been prioritizing myself for once.”
- If they mock you with, “You think you’re so smart,” agree: “Yes, I value my intelligence.”
This approach leaves them speechless because they can’t use your response as fuel for further attacks. You’re agreeing, but you’re reframing their insult as a strength.
4. Redirect the Conversation
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