Engaging in a conversation with a narcissist feels like being trapped in an everlasting storm—deadly, dangerous, and utterly draining. It’s akin to banging your head against a wall—there’s no purpose, no goal to achieve. Narcissists keep rambling and ranting, beating around the bush while attacking you in visible and invisible ways. They don’t care what you think or how they should cooperate. No, their aim is to extract sadistic supply by torturing you. They love to lecture and talk at you, which is why you must arm yourself with some instant narcissistic conversation stoppers to free yourself if they try to trap you.
1. Play the Confusion Card
Don’t defend, don’t justify—act like you don’t understand why they’re behaving the way they are. For example, if the narcissist is yelling, cursing, or playing the victim, your natural instinct may be to defend yourself. But that’s exactly what they want. Instead, disarm them with disorienting questions. Ask, “Are you okay? Do you need help?”
Such questions will disrupt their behavior by making them realize they’re acting irrationally or exposing their instability. Maintain calm, curious body language when asking these questions. Avoid anger or sarcasm, as they’ll sense insincerity. If they continue provoking you, you can feign confusion with absurd responses. For example, if they ask, “Why didn’t you answer my call?” you might respond, “Oh, I was busy wondering what the square root of 144 is!” This tactic wastes their time and frustrates them, leading them to disengage.
2. Turn Their Questions Back on Them
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