A narcissist does not just form a bond with you through mind games and mood swings; they do it with their words. Their words are like spells, coded in emotional familiarity, dressed as love, and served with perfect timing when you are most vulnerable. This is why it is not just a psychological addiction; it is spiritual. It wraps itself around your soul in a way that feels like destiny but is actually destruction. It is the repeated exposure to emotional highs and lows, but more than that, it is the language that sinks into your nervous system, traps your inner child, and convinces you that this is what connection is supposed to feel like.
The trauma bond isn’t only built through manipulation; it is built through carefully crafted lies that hook you into staying just a little longer, forgiving just one more time, and hoping that this time, the fairy tale they sold you may come true.
Lie number one: “I have never felt this way about anyone.” At first, this sounds magical, doesn’t it? Rare and intimate, like you have cracked open their cold heart and discovered warmth. But that warmth is manufactured; it is not a reflection of you. It is a script they use on everyone who fits the profile of supply. They say it early and often, before trust has been earned or depth has been explored, because they know that once you believe your connection with them is rare, you will fight to preserve it at any cost. You will stay through disrespect, make excuses, confuse pain with passion, and most of all, you will tell yourself that if it is this real, it must be real. But what they mean is not that you are special; what they mean is that you are useful. For now, they haven’t fallen for you like you have for them; they have targeted you, and they need you to believe that what you have is unique so you never dare walk away.
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