A narcissist never forgets you, but not in the way you think. You may believe the narcissist has moved on and replaced you, but that’s not how it really works. In their secret, twisted mind, you linger like a ghost they cannot shake off—not because they loved you deeply, of course, but because you were the one who slipped through their fingers, and they hate that.
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The Narcissist’s Secret Struggle
When you leave a narcissist—especially if you do it standing tall and unbroken—they do not just shrug it off. They’ll tell you they do not care and act like you never existed. They may bad-mouth you, labeling you as crazy, difficult, or toxic, or they will completely avoid saying your name at all, as if you are dead to them. But that is a lie—a lie they want you to believe.
You did not just walk away; you walked away with your power and theirs. You became the proof that they failed, the evidence that their control wasn’t as absolute as they believed. Narcissists hate unfinished business, don’t they? They thrive on domination and the satisfaction of knowing they have destroyed you. When they do not manage to fully crush you, you become their greatest living shame—the one who survived them, the one who stood in the fire, faced their darkness, and walked out stronger.
That is why they become envious and dark. You do not get to see amicability or understanding, even mutual respect, after cutting ties with them. They become mean and nasty because you are a living reminder of their failure.
How They Remember You
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