5 Hidden Ways Narcissists Fake Being Helpful Around The House -

A narcissist never offers genuine help around the house. They see household chores as mundane tasks you are supposed to handle. After all, they married you with the expectation that you would take care of such duties. For them, marriage is often perceived as a license to use you as a servant. You’re expected to raise the children, cook, clean, earn money, and do everything else while treating the narcissist as an additional child.

However, when they feel the need to call you ungrateful, belittle you, or create the illusion of being helpful, they may offer assistance in sneaky ways. This tactic is designed to confuse you and make you think, “Maybe they are contributing equally. Perhaps I need to let go of my anger and accept that they are a responsible partner or parent.” But this is a psychological game.

1. They Show Up at the Last Minute

A narcissist often appears right before a task is completed, giving the impression they’ve done the heavy lifting. For instance, after you’ve prepared everything for planting in the garden, they might come in and sprinkle a few seeds, claiming credit for the work. Meanwhile, your hard work is dismissed as irrelevant. If you express frustration, they’ll call you ungrateful or accuse you of nagging.

This tactic allows them to be seen as an equal contributor, shutting down any criticism from you or others. It’s all about their physical presence and perceived effort, not actual help.