Conversations with a narcissist are hard to handle at times, especially when the narcissist isn’t aware of how they affect others. Most narcissists are not aware they are narcissists; they believe this is a normal way to treat others and themselves. When most people think of narcissism, they think of someone who is aggressive, openly egotistical, and controlling. Yes, those traits are true, but what if they are quiet and can do all of those things at the same time? We know what you are thinking, “You can’t be a shy narcissist!” Yes, you can; these are called covert narcissists. These narcissists are shy and can control people in more passive-aggressive ways. They are not as social, not as charming, and not as bold as other narcissists. They are harder to bond with and form a relationship with. So how can you tell when you’ve met a covert narcissist? We want to tell you all about it, so watch to the end to look for key signs of a true covert narcissist.
Number 1: They avoid social situations.
The one thing that normal narcissists know how to do is charm people and socialize. They are great at influencing others to be their friend or spouse, or we can call it luring them in. Covert narcissists are the opposite. Coverts have a tendency to avoid social situations. They usually don’t show interest in socializing as they find it unnecessary. They can usually make friends when people come up to them and start a conversation, but they avoid making the first move. Covert narcissists also are not as charming as regular narcissists; they won’t flatter strangers to get their attention, but they are mostly there to take up space in the room. These moments of refusal to socialize are usually anxiety-provoking. Coverts usually have high anxiety and social anxiety, and this causes their social skills to shut down. They are emotionally unavailable to others, so they fear conversations because they are afraid people will see them for who they truly are. With their inability to empathize, they seek out others who appear to be like them. How does that saying go? Birds of a feather flock together? That typically describes covert narcissists. Covert narcissists will usually socialize with someone who does not have emotional baggage with them. It helps them feel more comfortable in this stressful situation. This is not to say that coverts will never socialize, which they will, but it’s rare.
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Number 2: They get depressed frequently.
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