8 Phrases to Shut Down Narcissists/Toxic People

If you’re trying to make a point and the narcissist refuses to validate you, instead shifting blame or accusing you, resist the urge to convince them otherwise. Instead, you can say:

“You’re allowed to feel that way.”
“Thank you for letting me know how you feel.”

After using one of these lines, stay focused on your point. If they blame-shift again, simply reply:

“Well, I just wanted you to know how I feel.”

The temptation may be to make them understand, but they won’t. Narcissists thrive on giving you the opposite of what you want. Express yourself briefly and move on.

2. When They Say Something Ridiculous

If the narcissist starts making false claims or saying things that are absurd, you can respond with:

“I hear you. Thank you for expressing your viewpoint.”

This response acknowledges their statement without agreeing with it or discrediting yourself. By doing this, you release the urge to align with their perspective—something that will never happen.

3. When They Resort to Name-Calling

Narcissists often resort to name-calling, both overtly and covertly. They might say things like, “You’re selfish,” or “You’re the reason this family is unhappy.” No matter what they accuse you of, remember that you don’t need their approval to hold onto your reality. Respond with:

“I’m sorry you feel that way.”

This statement is empowering because it recognizes their insult without internalizing it. It’s their thought, not yours. You don’t need to convince them otherwise.