You know that narcissists are pathological liars, and of course, you’ve learned to take anything they say with a grain of salt, right? With good reason. But if you tell them that you don’t believe them, watch out. They can’t stand it. If you want to avoid drama, don’t bother pointing out their lies. Not only will they never admit the truth, but you can use this to your advantage if necessary. For example, let’s say you find out they’re cheating and you confront them. Obviously, they’re going to deny it, even if you actually caught them in the act, and you’re letting them know that you have proof.
As infuriating as this will be, you have to pretend to believe them. Yeah, that’s right. Go ahead and let them lie. They will assume you believe them, and since they also have a tendency to underestimate you, they’re going to get a little sloppy when they think they’ve got you snowed. So this is going to allow you to do what you need to do to deal with the situation, which in this case, I hope means you’re going to be getting your ducks in a row so that you can leave them for cheating on you without having to deal with the drama.
7. “Goodbye.”
This is the ultimate way to destroy a narcissist. See, they need narcissistic supply to function like a vampire needs blood and darkness to live. If you’re one of their sources of narcissistic supply, they cannot stand the idea of not having you around to dump their emotional garbage on, not to mention giving them the attention, praise, and admiration that they so desperately need. If you say goodbye and you leave, and then you go no contact and stick with it, they will at least temporarily be destroyed. Of course, they’ll also use narcissistic injury here as a way to gain attention from other people and often to find a new source of supply. They play the poor me game, they engage in various smear campaigns about you with anyone who will listen.
But if you hold out and you use the grey rock method, as in don’t react emotionally, or you just remain fully no contact and don’t react at all, they’ll eventually move on and stop torturing you. As difficult as this can feel, it is ultimately the best outcome of a relationship with a toxic narcissist.
But the bottom line is, remember that in the end, while you can certainly destroy a narcissist using words such as the ones I shared today, the very best revenge you could get on any narcissist truly is to simply live your life well without them. To find true happiness and peace in your life despite the fact that they exist. Not only with learning that you’re happy without them and living like they don’t exist, destroy a narcissist, but it would make them feel like you’ve kind of won the relationship. Not that you need a trophy like that, but you do deserve to be happy and not live in fear of triggering the next episode of narcissistic rage or injury. No one should have to live like this. Walking on eggshells is both difficult and painful, and they can change you in some very profound ways.
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