7 Words That Destroy A Narcissist

Telling a narcissist that they’re a failure or that you’re disappointed in them in any way sort of tugs at that false self, the mask they hide behind for most people. Even if they already know that you know who they are, acknowledging they’re anything less than perfect is only going to enrage and offend them.

Side note: even if someone else shares this kind of sentiment with them, they’re likely to take out their negative feelings on you as a sort of emotional garbage dump. For example, if their boss at work gives them a bad review or points out a mistake, they might come home and ruin your night as a result of it. To avoid drama in this case, you would need to take their side in every situation and agree that it isn’t their fault somehow, which brings me to number five.

5. “It’s your fault.”

You probably already know that narcissists refuse to take responsibility for their behavior, at least when it comes to anything that makes them feel like they look bad. They will blame everyone but themselves for all of their failures and screw-ups. On top of that, they’re going to expect you to go along with their delusion. So, using the example from number four, if you don’t agree that the boss is at fault for the bad review or mistake they pointed out, the narcissist will have another reason to go after you. Oh, and this will even be the case if you are the person being blamed. If you don’t agree that it’s your fault, they’re gonna make you pay. To avoid drama or at least minimize it, you would need to agree that someone else is responsible, even if that means you have to admit to something you didn’t do. Again, not worth it.