Narcissists play with the baby when others are watching. Their voice becomes too sweet, their laughter too loud, and the moments too theatrical. It looks like joy, but it’s acting. The second the audience leaves, the performance ends. The baby is set aside or handed back; what seems like love is never about the child. It’s about the image of being a playful, warm parent. The baby is merely a stage prop for their reputation. The disturbing part is that babies can sense this emptiness. As I mentioned earlier, they fidget, avoid eye contact, or look restless because, even without language, they know the difference between being bonded with and being used as an accessory. What should have been a sacred moment of connection becomes hollow theater. Once you see the pattern, you realize every smile, every exaggerated laugh was never for the child, but for the crowd watching.
Number Seven: Competing with a Baby
This is one of the strangest dynamics, yet it happens. Instead of celebrating their own baby’s growth, narcissists find ways to compete with them. They might brag, “She smiled at me more than you,” or claim, “The baby only stops crying in my arms.” When the child reaches for someone else, they sulk as if rejected. What should be joy becomes rivalry. They treat milestones as contests, as though love and attention are resources that must be won. A baby’s giggle becomes a battlefield for their fragile ego. The tragedy is that love is supposed to expand around a child, but with a narcissist, it contracts. Even an infant, who has no concept of competition, becomes a rival in their eyes. Their hunger for control and admiration is so absolute that no one, not even a newborn, is spared. This is why being around a narcissist never feels safe for a child. Instead of receiving unconditional love, the baby becomes part of the narcissist’s endless games of comparison and control.
Conclusion: The Chilling Truth About Narcissists
When you look closely at how a narcissist behaves around a baby, you see something chilling. Innocence does not bring out their best; it exposes their worst. The cries, the smiles, the needs that should awaken compassion instead awaken contempt, jealousy, and fakery. That is the ultimate truth about narcissists. That’s why they are harmful. Even the purest form of love cannot reach them because love requires sacrifice, patience, and humility—qualities they simply do not possess. Should I say they cannot have, or do not want to have?
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