7 Stages Every Narcissist Goes Through in Their Life -

Every narcissist goes through seven extreme phases in their lives. That is how they’re formed. During the first four or five phases, they feel like they are absolutely winning. They build their empire by stepping on people, using them as sacrificial lambs without any regard for the damage they cause. They live as if they are invincible, completely convinced that their actions won’t catch up to them. They exploit people, manipulate situations, and commit emotional crimes without any fear of consequences. But once the fourth or fifth phase starts fading away, reality begins to set in. Their real karma finally arrives in the sixth and seventh phases; those are the most painful ones, and that is their true punishment. So stay until the very end to see how all of this unfolds and what they go through.

Stage 1: The Entitled Seed is Planted

Stage number one is when the entitled seed is planted. A narcissist’s journey does not start with them grabbing power; it starts with how they are programmed as children. Many times, their parents enable them blindly, putting them on a pedestal they never earned. They grow up believing they are superior just because they exist. Their impulsivity is fed. These children are never taught humility. Instead, they learn hierarchy, and they are always placed at the top, above their siblings and above the rules that apply to everyone else. When they make mistakes, those mistakes get brushed off. When they are cruel, that cruelty gets excused. Their ego is fed as if it is the family’s most sacred responsibility. They do not learn accountability; they learn worship without ever having to work for anything. They start believing that other people exist just to submit to them. In these homes, love comes with conditions, and everything feels like a performance. The parents smile in public but rage behind closed doors, and the child absorbs it all. They figure out that fooling the world brings reward, while being truthful brings punishment. So they become masters of wearing masks, even as children, especially if they are being abused. If they are emotionally neglected and if there is a lot of chaos, they learn that love is not real; only power matters. So they become exactly what they see: cold, manipulative, and emotionally shut off.

At this point, you may ask, do they even have a choice? I would say yes, because look at your experiences. It’s highly likely that you have experienced a lot of childhood trauma. Did you become cruel like your parents? You did not, because you knew what the right thing to do was, and they chose easy over right. Whether they are overpraised or completely dismissed, the foundation is always the same. Their real self gets abandoned, and a false self starts taking over—one that is designed to connect with people, not to love them, but to dominate them.