7 Everyday Things That Break a Narcissist's Heart (Narc Told me This) -

Most people believe narcissists only experience one big collapse or one big fall. But that’s not true. The truth is their false self is so paper-thin that it gets injured every single day. It only takes the most unexpected, quiet things to rip it apart. These aren’t the classic triggers that you might learn about from YouTube videos or Instagram posts. These hidden triggers—everyday things that break a narcissist’s heart—are subtle, unassuming landmines that can be devastating to a narcissist’s inner world, which we are going to talk about today. These triggers were revealed to me by a narcissist in an accidental session, so you may want to stay until the very end to know what they are.

Trigger 1: Intuitive Children

The first trigger occurs when intuitive children see through them and are not impressed by what they see. Children are supposed to be easy to charm, right? Easy to control? You make a funny face, give them a toy, and they light up. At least that is what the narcissist believes until he meets a child who does not smile, does not laugh, and does not cry either—just stares. The minute this happens, the narcissist starts shaking. They begin to feel uncomfortable, even scared, because they do not know what’s going on. They cannot understand why the presence of that child is so destabilizing, but they feel quite uneasy. Why? Because the child looks at them a certain way. It’s like they are being watched by God. That is what that narcissist said to me: “I felt I was being seen through.”

Children, especially intuitive or traumatized ones, have an unfiltered perception. They do not respond to status or charisma; they feel energy. When they pick up that something is off, they do not know how to articulate it—they just act on it. It’s all energy. And for a narcissist, being silently rejected by a child who doesn’t even know what rejection means creates a deep internal rupture. It confirms a haunting belief they try to suppress: “I’m not lovable—not even by a child.” Can you believe that when a narcissist is around a child like this, the child gets angry, throws a tantrum, doesn’t want to get close, doesn’t want to talk, and shows some kind of fear, some kind of hesitation? To a narcissist, this is a big embarrassment. They try to laugh it off, saying, “Oh, it’s just a child doing childish things.” But in reality, they know what’s going on.

These types of children are hyper-attuned to their environments and the people they interact with, possibly traumatized at home, or dealing with narcissists themselves. I was once such a child who would read people’s body language unconsciously and unintentionally to know what their intentions were back then. Nobody taught me that. You just learn to do it when you live with a narcissist because living with a narcissistic parent is like walking on fire. It’s a land filled with mines, and you have to watch your steps all the time. That makes you highly intuitive and gives you the superpower to spot predators.

When a narcissist is rejected by a child who can feel through their demonic energy, they feel abandoned. And what does that abandonment lead to? A lot of shame. Then, if the narcissist is able to get a hold of this child, what do they do? They physically abuse them or emotionally torture them. Why? Because they do not like rejection at all. They do not like to be ignored. Such a child masterfully ignores the narcissist’s gimmicks because intuitively he or she knows there’s no point in playing games with this monster. So, they keep their distance at all times, which triggers a chase, and that narcissist then tries to find a way to get them and take their revenge.