There is no doubt that you learn a lot in childhood. However, the child is like a sponge, which absorbs everything that is positive and also everything that is negative. Hence the wounds that may not heal.
Everything that happens in childhood serves to shape the person you will be as an adult. It is in this stage of life that one works on self-esteem, for example, so important to develop resilience and know-how to deal with frustration.
Unfortunately, it is also in childhood that certain emotional wounds difficult to heal are gained, and that can last a lifetime if the person does not undergo psychological treatment. Would you be able to tell which ones they are? In this article we list the 7 main ones, which need to be faced many times with the help of a psychologist, to get rid of all the negative emotions and, finally, start living a life without the weight of that burden.
1) Fear of abandonment
This is undoubtedly one of the emotional wounds that appear when parents cannot (or do not want to) assume the role of a protective figure. The lack of company and attention leave deep marks on the child, especially if the parents or guardians are never to welcome this boy or girl when facing their fears.
You will reach adulthood as an insecure and emotionally dependent person. It is also normal for them to be lonely and have difficulty making friends.
The rejection is painful and, when systematized, it ends up creating a feeling of insecurity. Affection and understanding are fundamental for the child to develop properly and with emotional security. Without this, no matter how capable he is, he will feel inferior to everything and everyone.
As an adult, he will hardly rejoice or feel satisfied with his achievements, which will make his relationship with others difficult in all spheres of his life.
3) Intra-family violence
Punishments and repressive acts should not be associated with disciplinary intent. Experts in child psychology warn that, although usually, it is not the best teaching method. What about actions that result in intra-family violence?
Fights, insults, anger attacks that get out of control… all this destabilizes the child, whether he is the victim of violence or a witness to frequent acts at home. She will grow up having this abusive environment as a reference, and the chance to repeat this model in adult life, in their relationships, is latent.
Childhood is a stage of learning when we build our sense of justice. Favoritism among siblings, differences in treatment at home and at school, is situations that nourish the idea that it is not the child that deserves the attention of those around him.
It grows insecure and pessimistic, waiting unconsciously for the destruction by all. It is difficult to build lasting relationships from this worldview.
Whether by bullying or by a harmful family environment, the child who grows up being constantly subjected to humiliation will be traumatized. This trauma will mainly impact their self-esteem, leaving them sad and anxious. As an adult, she will have little ambition for the future, precisely because she does not trust her potential.
Unfulfilled promises: an apparently innocent attitude adopted by parents and guardians. When statements like “if you do the lesson, I’ll take you to the park” or “if you scrape the plate, you’ll be able to ask for whatever you want” are not kept, there’s more at stake than the frustration of the child’s expectations.
For her, it is a blow to her trust in her parents or guardians, who are infallible in their understanding. For example, if you are being taught that you can’t trust anyone, that the safest thing to do is not to believe, because that way you avoid suffering.
7) Fear of the unknown
All children, at some point, need to face their fears, whether of the dark, of ghosts, of height, etc. And this process is not always treated with the delicacy. Being taxed as a coward, fearful, or similar weakens their emotions.
As an adult, it is natural to be an indifferent person, with problems to manifest empathy for others.
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