Number 4: Opportunism
Narcissists are opportunistic, meaning they’ll wait for a moment of weakness or vulnerability—something, anything they might be able to take advantage of to get their foot in the door again. Here’s the thing: if the narcissist can’t pull you back into the toxic abuse cycle right away, they’ll bide their time. They’ll watch, even from a distance, and they’ll wait. When you’re at your lowest—after a loss, a crisis, or for whatever reason—you find yourself in a position of vulnerability. They’ll reappear, sometimes out of nowhere, as if by magic, with the goal of exploiting your vulnerability and pain.
This is why doing the real healing and recovery work is so vital and, in my experience, non-negotiable. When you do your work and sever the invisible energetic ties permanently, you become untouchable—bulletproof. No matter what ups and downs you may go through, no matter what life throws at you, you will never, ever be susceptible to narcissistic abuse again.
Number 5: Smear Campaigns
If the narcissist can’t get through to you when they realize you’ve closed the door for real and for good, they have zero power or sway over you. When that happens, they attack your character, your reputation, and your relationships. This is next-level manipulation and abuse, even when done from a distance. The gathering of allies was just the warm-up; now they go all in—spreading outrageous lies about you, twisting the truth beyond recognition, and turning people against you, including your own family and even your own kids, if they can manage it.
It can be brutal and very painful, to say the least. But here’s the truth: anyone who believes the narcissist’s narrative without so much as giving you the benefit of the doubt—never mind the benefit of a conversation—is someone who was never truly on your side to begin with. So see it for what it is, accept it for what it is, do your healing and recovery work, and get your self-esteem to a place where it doesn’t matter. You are rock solid, no matter what the narcissist has to say and no matter who believes them. Let them talk; you stay focused on your own healing, your own life, and getting your life to a much healthier, happier, and more peaceful place than it ever could be with a narcissist in it. Trust me, time has a funny way of bringing truth to light—especially when we stay in our own lane and focus on doing what’s right for ourselves to heal for real and move on to living our best life. That’s where your true power lies.
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