For example, they might summon the waiter and say:
“I want that corner table now, please. Can I get some space? I can’t stand these people.”
If they’re a covert narcissist, they may choose an isolated spot to maintain their façade and hide their abusive tendencies. Narcissists use food and special occasions to manipulate and control their loved ones. By demanding a specific spot, they create a setting that fosters abuse while ruining the occasion for others.
However, it’s important not to confuse this behavior with social anxiety. People with social anxiety might also prefer a quiet corner to feel safe and less overwhelmed. The difference lies in intention: a narcissist does it to manipulate and control, while others do it for comfort.
An overt narcissist, in contrast, might seek attention in loud and obnoxious ways. They’ll yell, call for attention, or disrupt the atmosphere to ensure everyone notices them.I once witnessed this firsthand. A loud and disruptive man seated nearby drew everyone’s attention in the restaurant. He seemed to relish the irritation he caused, interpreting the attention as admiration. His behavior revealed his insecurity and desperate need for validation.
Behavior 2: Lack of Connection and Open Cheating
Narcissists often fail to connect with their companions. Instead, they may openly flirt with others, engage in excessive phone use, or text their alternate sources of supply. What does this look like? While you’re trying to engage with them, they’ll be distracted by others in the room or immersed in their phone. If you confront them, they’ll dismiss your concerns by calling you “crazy” or “too sensitive.”
For example:
“See, this is why I don’t like going anywhere with you. You’re always nagging and making a scene.” They’ll often abandon you mid-meal, leaving you embarrassed and humiliated.
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