Now, number five, and the last one, forced eating in a group like you are part of a cult, and you cannot do anything on your own. My father would force us to eat together. Eating together is a good thing, you know. It’s a family value. It makes you feel like you belong to a group, and you feel safe and whatnot. But no, in this case, it’s all about torture. If you do not eat in a group, then who would they abuse? Who would they shame? Who would they use as a source of supply when eating? Who would they terrify and terrorize? If they were to eat alone, wouldn’t they feel really unimportant? Wouldn’t they feel abandoned and isolated? Narcissists don’t like abandonment. They do not like being ignored. When you do not want to eat with them, they feel like you have rejected them, and they do not like it at all. It’s like a pact. It’s an agreement that you have invisibly signed, according to which you will have to eat with them no matter what. No matter how late they are, how they are ignoring you. If you’re hungry, it does not matter. If they want to eat, you will have to eat as well, whether or not you feel like it. That is my story. How do I know this? It has happened to me. You’re never allowed to love food, which is why a lot of survivors then either avoid it, have a very bad relationship with food, become emotional eaters, or become anorexic. They do not want to eat at all. Food naturally was associated with trauma, so they hate it. Do you see where I’m going with this? Which one of these food habits of the narcissist have you been a victim of? Let me know in the comments. Drop your experiences. Who knows, you might end up validating a lot of people.
And also, before I end this episode, here is an important announcement. I am doing an online workshop for all children of narcissistic parents who want to heal. In this workshop, I’ll help you understand how you get traumatized at the core level as a child and how you carry that trauma into your adulthood. Then I’ll also help you learn how to heal your core wounds and stop attracting narcissists once and for all. If you are interested, you can click the “I” button above to book your spot now. The workshop is happening on May 4th and 11th. It will be online. The link is in the description of this episode as well. With that, let’s bring this episode to an end. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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