Weird Habit #4: Future Faking with Food
They future fake you through food. This one took me a long time to recognize. Back when I hadn’t yet seen through the mask, when I still hoped things could change, my mother would often use food to reel me in emotionally. She would say things like, “Oh, I’ve been planning to make your favorite dish and those dried tomatoes you love! I might even try that dessert you mentioned the other day.” She would say all of this in front of others, of course—especially people who still saw her as the sweet, generous woman she pretended to be. They would smile, and I would feel a twinge of warmth—maybe even guilt for pulling away emotionally. “Maybe she is trying,” I would think.
But then, I would show up, and nothing would be made. Can you believe that? Sometimes not even a drink of water offered. She would act surprised that I even expected anything, or she would flip it around and say, “I know my son. I know he will eat anything I cook for him with love, won’t you?” And then, like a dog, I would go, “Yes, Mom.” That’s how she had groomed me to be her puppy.
What I eventually realized is that it wasn’t about the food. It was about control. She made promises to pull me close, build anticipation, make me let my guard down, only to disappoint me again. And in front of others, she still looked like she tried. It is such a subtle tactic, but it is devastating because it breaks your ability to trust. It makes you feel foolish for hoping.
Weird Habit #5: Secret Meal Sabotage
They secretly sabotage meals while acting like they are starving themselves. Now, this one is straight out of a psychological thriller. Narcissists will often pretend they’re sacrificing, starving, or too tired to eat. But behind the scenes, they are ordering what they really want.
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