Number five: They suddenly go blank in the middle of your emotion. Your eyes are filled with tears, your voice is shaking, heart wide open, and they go blank—no reaction, no shift in energy, no softness in their eyes, just a dead stare like you’re speaking a language they don’t understand. You’re pouring out your heart, your pain, and they vanish emotionally right in front of you. And what is that silence all about? It’s neutral; it is punishment; it is their way of saying, “I don’t care; you’re alone in this.” And your body feels the absence, your nervous system panics, you start to feel crazy, like it’s too much, too embarrassing, like you are the only one feeling anything at all. That blank face does not just hurt; it humiliates you because they’re not just ignoring your words; they are rejecting your humanity. And over time, you stop opening up, you stop crying, you stop showing what is real because every time you do, they make you pay for it with silence. You learn that vulnerability equals abandonment, that emotion or emotional expression equals shame, so you shrink, of course. You lock everything inside just to protect that cold, empty stare that tells you without a word, “I don’t give a damn about you.
These silent tactics, these invisible wounds, are what make narcissistic abuse so insidious and so difficult to heal from. Because there are no bruises to show, no witnesses to the overt aggression, the victim is often left doubting their own reality, questioning their sanity. The absence of outward conflict can be incredibly confusing and isolating.
Remember, you are not alone if you have experienced these subtle forms of humiliation. Your feelings are valid, and the pain you feel is real. Healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey, and acknowledging the impact of these silent wounds is a crucial first step.
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