5 WAYS A NARCISSIST TREATS YOU WHEN YOU’RE SICK: How Narcissists Handle Your Sickness
First, the narcissist may act sicker than you. Let’s say you never get sick, and you happen to come down with the flu. When you have the flu, there’s not much you can do. You’re essentially tied to your bed, resting and trying to hydrate. It’s nice to have someone who can help you, even if you don’t actually need it. But if you’re with a narcissist, you might be very ill yourself and still be asked to care for them because they are acting as though they are sicker than you.
This is something I hear often; it happens consistently in relationships with narcissists. Another thing a narcissist may do when you get sick is try to shame you for it. They might imply that you’re weak because you’re sick, either through their actions or even directly saying something like, “If you weren’t so weak, you wouldn’t be sick right now.”
When you’re sick, you’re sick, and there’s not much you can do about it except try to get better. It’s a kick in the face to have someone say it’s your fault. Another thing a narcissist may do is completely ignore you. Your illness does not fit their agenda. They are not there to take care of you when you’re sick; they might act as though you’re not even there.
For example, you might be sick and unable to get up to get something for yourself, but the narcissist might say, “Oh hey, I’m hungry; I’m going to get a burger. See you later!” They don’t think about you at all. In cases like these, it becomes very clear who the number one priority is in their life.
There are times when it’s evident that you need to help someone you care about, but a narcissist lacks that empathy. You might hear something completely heartless, and they may not even realize how selfish they are being.
A fourth thing a narcissist may do is act like your sickness is an attack on them. You are clearly bothering them by being sick. They may think you’re pretending, and you feel like you have to prove that you’re actually sick, which is a crazy place to be. It’s a sign that something is wrong in the relationship and with how they view you.
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