A widely known relationship proverb says, “Give everything and expect nothing.” This mindset misleads many people trapped in narcissistic relationships, encouraging them to keep on giving regardless of its cost to their well-being. It overlooks the fact that expecting nothing does not equate to tolerating abuse. Ironically, a narcissist proposes unconditional love while expecting you to do the same. However, at their end of the bargain, this includes inflicting abuse and trauma. A narcissist wants you to accept this.
Once they tire of love bombing, their masks fall off; it’s as if they instantly change into a different person. They put you on a pedestal under the condition that you will heed only their needs. Being in this position not only guarantees pressure but also sets you up for a personal crisis.
Have you ever found yourself in these situations? Perhaps the signs of love bombing have enlightened you to the patterns of your narcissist’s love. A narcissist can project onto you, manipulate you, be inconsistent, make false promises, or place their love as a conditional offering. The critical takeaway from identifying their version of attachment is that no one should settle for it.
Even if you recognize these patterns early on or a bit too late, the next vital step is to extract yourself from the situation as soon as possible. Take back your reality and set reasonable boundaries to define how you should be treated. After all, they say, “Good fences make good neighbors.
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