4 Ways to Torture The Narcissist

That’s right turn the tables and drop them like a hot rock, and do not look back. Block them across all platforms and adopt a “you’re dead to me” attitude. This means stop talking to them, stop talking about them, and stop thinking about them to the best of your ability. Instead, invest all of your time, energy, attention, and resources into healing and improving yourself and your life. Decide to move on like you mean it. Do whatever you need to do to permanently break free, but don’t stop there. Do the work to become a better person the best version of yourself, the happiest, healthiest, most healed, and empowered version of yourself. Become the person who isn’t an easy mark, who isn’t a match to empathy-impaired emotional manipulators and toxic bullies and perpetrators. Rather, grow into the person you were always intended to be the person who is standing fully in your power, sovereign and free.

This requires that you get yourself to a place where, as far as you’re concerned, they don’t even exist for real. And the truth is, it doesn’t even matter if you have to fake it till you make it. It’s better if you can absolutely embody and own a posture of total indifference and do so authentically. But if you’re not quite there yet if you have to start from a place of acting “as if” until you’ve traveled the path of healing, recovery, and personal empowerment long enough to grow into a place of absolute indifference, so be it.

The bottom line is, the moment you decide to ghost the narcissist, the moment you decide to drop them like a hot rock, the moment you decide to take your power back and cut ties for real, you are no longer a reliable source of narcissistic supply. You’re no longer available to be manipulated, targeted, scapegoated, gaslit, or otherwise abused. Instead, where the narcissist is concerned, you are coming from a place of complete and utter indifference unaffected by their BS and nonsense. “Couldn’t care less, Charlie, whether you live or die” is the attitude you’re going for.

When you communicate this attitude and posture through your behavior and non-action, your non-reactivity, and your ability to hold the line when it comes to having established and maintaining no contact, I promise you this: the complete and utter lack of interest, care, or concern on your part your total indifference will be torturous for the narcissist. Whether they ever let on or not is another story. And the irony is, to truly torture a narcissist, they have to see that you don’t even want to torture them. It’s clear that you simply do not care enough to bother. Whatever happens to them, you couldn’t care less. Your focus is on yourself and moving on to live a much better life without them in it. Your focus is on yourself and your well-being. You’re not focused on them whatsoever. And again, the irony is, that’s the thing that tortures the narcissist more than anything.