10 Weird Emotional Reactions Seen in Narcissistic Abuse Victims

Nervous laughter is your brain’s quick fix for uncomfortable moments. You might laugh when someone says something hurtful—not because it’s funny but as a way to deflect pain or tension.

Dr. Judith Orloff, a psychiatrist specializing in emotional resilience, explains that people often use laughter as a defense mechanism. “Laughter can act as a protective barrier for emotions we’re not ready to face.” For someone who has endured narcissistic abuse, this reaction becomes almost automatic. Laughing may feel safer than showing sadness or anger, especially if you’ve learned that showing vulnerability will be used against you. It’s your brain’s way of saying, I’m fine, even when you’re not.

3. Flinching at Physical Touch

Flinching at even gentle touch is something your nervous system might do after being on high alert for too long. It’s like your body’s danger radar going off without warning.

If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, your brain may associate touch—even harmless touch—with potential threats. Dr. Peter Levine, a trauma expert, explains that the body holds onto trauma long after the mind believes it’s safe. This flinch is a startle reflex, a deep-seated reaction from your nervous system designed to protect you. It’s not that you want to pull away from people—it’s more that your body has been wired to guard against anything it associates with harm.