10 Things Narcissists Say (And What They REALLY Mean)

Another phrase that narcissists love to say is, “I don’t have time for this.” They might say things like, “I don’t have time for your drama,” or “I don’t have time for your nonsense.” Usually, this happens right after they’ve dropped some major drama bomb; they’ve created a giant mess and are now pointing at you, saying, “Look at how dramatic you are.” Essentially, they are saying that your thoughts and feelings are frivolous and mean nothing. That’s really not an okay thing for anyone to say to another person. Again, think long and hard if you’re in a relationship with someone like this, and if you can get out, seriously reconsider whether you want to stay in it.

Sometimes there are situations where we genuinely don’t have time for nonsense, and you might find yourself saying this repeatedly if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. However, the issue arises when someone uses this phrase to invalidate your feelings or to invalidate you as a person.

The next thing that narcissists love to say is some variation of, “You don’t want me as an enemy.” This is very much a threat and often arises when things start getting ugly. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, this will often come towards the end of a breakup or a divorce. It can also happen in the workplace when a narcissist feels threatened by you, or in any kind of relationship when the narcissist fears that you might expose them. The ugly truth is that you probably don’t want a narcissist as an enemy. If you find yourself in a situation where things are starting to get ugly, really think about what you have to gain by engaging in battle. Sometimes it’s worthwhile; other times, you might come out on top, but definitely consider what you have to lose and assess your vulnerabilities. Keep in mind that narcissists lack emotional empathy. Depending on where they fall on the spectrum, they may exhibit some, but that lack of empathy can make them ruthless. So know exactly who you’re dealing with and weigh the pros and cons before deciding to confront a narcissist.

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