2. Obsessive Overthinking
After narcissistic abuse, obsessive overthinking feels like being trapped in an endless loop—replaying events, blaming yourself, and searching for answers.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains that narcissists fuel this cycle by making you believe everything is your fault. Your brain fixates on analyzing past interactions to avoid future mistakes. However, this coping mechanism keeps you emotionally tied to the abuse.
In Trauma and Recovery, Dr. Judith Herman describes overthinking as the brain’s way of regaining control in an uncontrollable situation. Recognizing this pattern is the first step toward breaking free and rebuilding your self-esteem.
3. Difficulty Concentrating
If you feel like your brain is stuck in a fog, you’re not alone. Constant stress and manipulation consume so much of your energy that focusing becomes difficult.
Canadian physician Dr. Gabor Maté, in The Myth of Normal, explains that chronic stress makes it harder for your brain to stay present or process information. This mental fog isn’t laziness—it’s your mind’s way of coping with emotional exhaustion.
Narcissists worsen this state by keeping you confused and draining your mental energy. Dr. Peter Levine states that trauma keeps your body on high alert, leaving little room for clear thinking. Lowering stress levels and practicing self-care can help clear the fog and improve focus.
4. Ignoring Red Flags
You might find yourself dismissing hurtful behaviors with excuses like, They’re just stressed or Maybe I overreacted. This happens because narcissists condition you to doubt your instincts.
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